November 17, 2004

Crime and Punishment

I watched a black woman bring her daughter into the building with her to pay her phone bill today. The girl was about fifteen, and was wearing a sandwich board sign. Poster board in front and back, and on both sides was written in large black marker:


I have been WAY NAUGHTY!!!
I've been suspended from school and my mother is VERY UNHAPPY with me!!! From this day forward I will obey all rules my teacher and mother tell me.
I am sorry.

I found that sign brutally poignant. And highly effective. This girl was shamed, but seemed very repentant. I believe that bit of public degradation did more to straighten her out than any ass whipping could have accomplished.

I was so excited I made a couple of signs up for my own girls when I got home, with some of their more repetitive transgressions on them.

I also believe I'll make up a few for me (well, a dozen or so. My sins are manifold). Then I can probably chuck the whole organized religion thing once and for all.

Posted by Velociman at November 17, 2004 6:39 PM
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If it works, please let me know...then sign me UP or strap 'em ON...whichever works best...

;-D

Posted by: Christina at November 17, 2004 6:43 PM

Very interesting from a sociological and psychological standpoint.
Blunt? Yes. Crude? Perhaps. However, a dose of humility, especially in front of one's peers, will help build character. Too many dropout street spooks demand "respect" not yet earned in any sense.
At least this young girl's friends know that she has a mother who gives a shit. For that, they will secretly envy her.

Posted by: jack straw at November 17, 2004 7:59 PM

And that, Jack, is why I felt unfortunately compelled to mention her mother was black. Because a black teenage girl in this town who is being raised by her mother and not her grandmother is newsworthy, as is a mother who takes a little tough love action on her daughter to straighten her out. I wanted to hug that mom for her actions, crude or no, but figured her daughter was being humiliated enough without some jim dog cracker jumping on the bandwagon.

Posted by: Velociman at November 17, 2004 8:10 PM

That little girl will have to have kids of her own before she realizes just how difficult it was for her mother to do that, and just how very much her mother loved her to make her go through with it.

I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall when the reality set in that her mother wasn't bluffing.

Posted by: jmflynny at November 17, 2004 8:17 PM

I want to hug her too. What an idea! Those things should be issued from the school to the parents for all suspendees.

(So killer blog-fodder just falls in your lap like that, huh?)

Posted by: Key at November 17, 2004 8:22 PM

Ha ha! I immediately told flynny "It's amazing when a blogpost just falls in your lap. Let me tell what I just saw."

Posted by: Velociman at November 17, 2004 8:25 PM

I was about nine years old and showing my ass in Webster's Department Store when my daddy said, "You straighten up right now, or I'll tan your hide here in front of God and everybody."

I didn't think he meant it. I showed my ass one more time. In a flash, he tanned my hide, in front of God and everybody, right there in the store. I was humiliated.

I never did that shit again.

Posted by: Acidman at November 17, 2004 8:41 PM

Been there and done that from both sides, Acidman.

And, V-man, got a question: Just how many of your transgressions would get you busted just for writing them down and displaying them in public? I mean, even writing some of the words down and displaying them in public is illegal up here. Of course, Hoosiers do tend to be a bit prudish.

I may need visual aids.

Posted by: Mamamontezz at November 17, 2004 8:47 PM

My mother's favorite trick was to warn us once, and then make good on the threat. The threat? To make us sit down where ever we misbehaved.

I cannot tell you how many times she left my sister and me sitting in the middle of a grocery store aisle or under a clothes rounder in a department store.

Oh geez...I still cringe when I think about it. Everyone who walked by staring and...G-d forbid, someone from school should see us.

Of course, now I could just sue her for child abandonment or for disenfranchisement...

Posted by: jmflynny at November 17, 2004 9:03 PM

Oh, god, that was beautiful. I live in a high-rent zip code in North Atlanta, and I can think of at least five snot-nosed little BMW-driving brats who richly, richly deserve such treatment. Or, at the very least, an Acidman's Daddy treatment.

Give that lady a blue ribbon.

Posted by: Kelley at November 17, 2004 9:51 PM

When my daughter was like 7 she stole a pack of gum from the Safeway in Colorado..we got in the car and I heard her unwrapping some candy and I know I didn't give her any so long story...I figured out what she had done..I marched her behind right back in that store, asked for the manager and said, "this is my daughter and she just stole from you." He scared the living daylights out of her and she cried the whole carride home..I don't think she's ever stole another thing again.

Posted by: Sandy at November 18, 2004 8:52 AM

God Bless her...I'd give that woman a hug if I saw her. My little one just had her first in-school suspension, and I about lost my mind.

Fodder for the future punishments of Gretel...

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